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The Lies Our Abuse Tells Us | Childhood Sexual Abuse Recovery

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A good online friend and helper of mine, Bobbi Parish, wrote an article recently.  Here’s an excerpt, with a link to the article:

The four lies are:
— We should be ashamed of our abuse, which manifests as Shame
— Our abuse was our fault, which manifests as Self-Blame
— We are bad because we caused our abuse and deserved our abuse which manifests as Low Self-Worth or even Self-Loathing
— We are powerless to change anything in our lives, which manifests as Powerlessness

The shame, self-blame and low self-worth reside at the very core of our being, defining the way we see ourselves and the world. That triad of lies is protected by the fourth lie: that we are powerless. The powerlessness tells us we cannot change the feelings of shame, self-blame and low self-worth that we feel. In essence, our feeling of powerlessness guards that core triad of lies. For this reason, I call those four lies The Lying Triad and Its Dark Guard.

The Lies Our Abuse Tells Us | Childhood Sexual Abuse Recovery.

Please take a moment to take this article in, dear readers.  I was just tweeting with Bobbi a moment ago– she was telling me the “The Lying Triad and Its Dark Guard” came to her in the middle of the night as I was saying it sounded like an enemy of an epic saga.

I felt inspired.  So many people know The Hero’s Journey as a template for a story, but I see it as a reflection of real life.  Our legends, myths, folkloric stories– are reflections of our values, dreams, outlook, for the societies we live in.  I took some time to explain that in a series of posts on “The Inner Journey”.

In essence, this will be “The Journey out of Childhood Abuse” and “From Zero to Hero”.  (Remember that WordPress blogging challenge, dear readers?  You see now why the theme resonated with me?”

Stay Tuned

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