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The Abyss engulfs me, for I have offended a friend.

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I unburdened more than I should…

I did not show enough compassion and patience in kind.

I have offended a friend.  I hope in time, I will be forgiven, but now, I must contemplate how I have gone wrong.

I will take it to my Master and consult with him on what I should do next.

Author: jaklumen

Wherever you see "jaklumen", that's me- the username is still unique as of the current year. Be aware that the facet you see, is only a small part of the me that is me.

10 thoughts on “The Abyss engulfs me, for I have offended a friend.

  1. We all make mistakes. Hopefully this person will forgive you.

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    • This person deals with chronic pain, too– I wish I could communicate my empathy better.

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      • 😦 We can’t always express ourselves they way we want. The fact that you are aware of this and want to improve is key! 🙂

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        • Well… I was taking the high road, actually. I was sure I’d been careful and considerate, and best I could chalk it up to was “ME DUELE TODO, CALLATE, PENDEJO” (except it would probably be in Japanese with a Southern drawl)

          I had Cimmy vet everything I said to this person last… but this person still just snapped without warning. Really, I did not fully see it coming until it was way too late.

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        • Then it is not your issue. It is that person’s issue and you did all you could. It sounds like they need to chill out some.

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        • Cimmy insisted that I let it go, and that this person clearly stated they wished to be left alone. It didn’t matter whether I was right or wrong; I needed to respect that.

          So we’ll see, I guess. This person is one of my top commenters, so I’m not completely sure what’s going on.

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        • It probably had nothing to do with you and they were just venting or having a bad day. I hope it all clears up soon.

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        • I’ve been reading a lot about high context culture and low context culture: http://www.culture-at-work.com/highlow.html and I think part of the problem is that the person comes from a high context culture, and is absolutely fascinated with another high context culture (and I had problems with yet another blogger of THAT particular high context culture). For the most part, I live in a low context culture, and I am an outsider. High context cultures don’t tend to be terribly accomodating; you’re supposed to know it from the culture, so if you weren’t born into it, or didn’t grow up with it, you’re out of luck.

          Apologies if that sounds like a lot of scholar-speak (it is)– basically, I don’t see it clearing up anytime soon.

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  2. The fact that you care and are trying to take responsibility and figure out what to do is way better than what I think most people are doing these days. I can look back to many times in my life when I would have loved to hear a simple “I’m sorry. I care.” Good luck. I enjoyed how succinctly you wrote this. Not a lot of emoting; just the facts without a lot of detail we don’t need to know.

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